My friend’s birthday is coming up soon, and her wonderful husband has reached out to all of her friends to get together and celebrate over sushi and karaoke. As you might expect, there were many takers. A few folks were out of town and sent their regrets, but for the most part, her friends have rallied to support her on her special day. Except for one. Because it’s Draft Day.
Friends are integral to our happiness and wellbeing. Research shows us that those with a large circle of friends are more able to fight depression and illness, speed up recovery time, slow aging, and prolong life. A study of women with breast cancer found that women without close friends were four times more likely to die from the disease as women with 10 friends or more. This study also showed that proximity is not an issue, as nice as it is to have someone near you to bring you soup when you’re sick. Your friends could be in the same town or across the country, and it doesn’t matter. The important thing is that you have friends.
In general, I don’t care why someone cannot make it to events. After all, I’ve missed my fair share for a variety of reasons, including simply not wanting to go. But I also know that good friends are hard to come by, and special moments should be shared with the people that we love. It’s hard to find someone that you would stick your neck out for, and somehow, mutually, they would do the same thing for you.
The next time that you have trouble rallying for a special moment in your friend’s life, remember that it’s not only important to your friend, but it’s important for your health.
“Friendship is born at that moment when one man says to another: "What! You too? I thought that no one but myself . . ."” ― C.S. Lewis
“A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.” ― Elbert Hubbard
“The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.” ― Bob Marley
“What is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two bodies.” ― Aristotle